My Fiance lost his virginity to his cousin at the age of 14 and she was 9yrs old. The fact is that the young girl Jenny(not real name). Has told me many many things about her past, about how she was sometimes sold for drugs by her mother, and knew Alot about bad things. She has been smoking since the age of 10, and is currently doing drugs and drinking and is only 15! Now my fiance and I have some history together, he was my first BF and I his first GF. We dated back in the 6th grade, but only to split after that summer because his best friend somehow convinced me to break up with him, only a good year later did I realize his friend said those things only to get with me. Of course it never happened all those 400x he asked me out. I tried to talk to my, well i guess at that time my ex, to say i was sorry, and was tricked. But he seemed very diff. this was later on in the 7th grade, he seemed, to be more quiet around me and more kept to himself. Now I know he was young, but he was also very mature for his age. He had really fallen in love with me, and the fact that he surpassed my disability, seemed even more better. I mean I cnt bend my legs, and my spine is curved. He was very cute and all the girls would throw any attention they could at him but he always would come straight to me, the "New girl". Or freak as i was called.And as I look back as we were dating, he never laid a hand on me, we never even kissed!! Not even on the cheek! We were very shy. But besides that, not too long ago his crazy cousin *Jenny* called me. She was angry stating the fact that my Fiance "raped her" and they had sex together for four years! I immediately called my fiance and told him to tell me the truth. He confronted me and told me that he never raped her, that they started to touch eachother when he was in the 7th grade late into the year, and it continued to something more whenever he would visit his aunt's house, Jenny would be on the computer looking at porn and would tell him to try these acts with her. and the reason it continued for so long was because he liked the "Feeling", but that they never kissed and that he was the one who ended it after the four years. Now We started dating again back in the 11th grade because I wanted to be with him again, and right away he told me he loved me but was too shy to ever get back with me. I lost my virginity to him, and a good couple of months later thats when his cousin broke the news to me. Im currently in college now and this is really taking a toll on me. It hurts me because if he truly says that he's always loved me even in our four years of not being together after the 6th grade, why did he do those things with her? Help me on some good advice Please! Im sorry this is really long but I wanted to make sure you guys have all the info you needed.
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well, for starters..
you have to understand that he does love you, but you had rejected him 
he was an adolescent boy who was discovering himself and his cousin Jenny probably took advantage of that. SHe seems to have had a traumatizing life and it's those types of kids that get good ones into trouble. You really can't blame your bf for liking the feeling. That's completely normal. It had NOTHING to do with who she is or anything like that, he just wanted to feel that, and try new things. I highly commend him for trusting you with this info and telling you the truth when you asked him about it, that also shows that he cares a lot about you.
Don't be fooled again. This girl may be jealous that he loves you. She hasn't ever had real love in her life and your bf may be the closest thing she's known. She's confusing his sexual desire (lust) for love. She probably told you all this info thinking you would break up with him. I personally don't think you should. You weren't with him, he didn't cheat on you, and it's not happening now.
I understand that your hurt by this, but I think you should try to forgive and forget and stay away from Jenny.
Good luck to you. I think this is just a blip on the radar.
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