My aunt and I are really close and have been since I was born. I haven't seen her in 11 years but we talk everyday or at least every other day and we talk for a good hour everyday! She has a 16 year old son who smoke marijuana and drinks. He comes and goes as he pleases. He also treats her and her other son like crap and threatens them often. He was on probation but his probation officer just let him get away with stuff and he just got off of it. Well now he has his permit and she will often let him drive with his 21 year old friend or she will drive his friends around. And if she tells him no he threatens to steal her car and wreck it.
She talks to me and whines to me about this everyday. I told her that she needed to be aware that if he didn't change friends he could possibly get worse. (his friends deal drugs and do worse then just pot). I used to be an addict when I was his age so I know what I'm talking about. I keep telling her she needs to call the cops on him and she just keeps saying she couldn't do that to her son and she can't give up on her son. I said that if he continued down this path he would never be able to make good money because often times they do drug tests. Well anyway she got all mad I guess and hung up on me. I cannot stand when people hang up on me. Should I call and apologize to her or should I wait for her to call and apologize? What would you do? Thanks and sorry for the long story!
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I would call back and apologize, even though you weren't really in the wrong. I would just say something like, "I'm sorry if I offended you, I really didn't mean too." and then just let the matter drop. But from now on when she brings up her issues with her son, just say, in the nicest and least judgmental tone you can muster, "Well, you know what I think you should do about that situation." Just gently shut down that avenue of conversation. You are right, unless she takes action the situation will get worse, but she isn't ready to do that. And that's her issue.
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If I was in your position I would give her a call, but I wouldn't apologise, you were giving her advice on what she should do there is nothing wrong with that, it's not like you were slagging him off. I would call her back and explain that you were only giving advice and didn't mean to offend her.
Good luck
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