My boyfriend and I been together for 6 years. When we first got together I was 17 and i didnt really care because i thought he was just another guy i would date. I knew he smoked weed but i didnt pay attention to it, but then i fell in love and here I am 6 years later with some bullsh*t issues. I never knew he smoked everyday like crazy until 3 years ago when we went to mexico. He was going crazy looking for weed in MEXICO in some sketchy places putting our lives in danger and he was agressive and mean to me the whole time. I guess if you wanna smoke weed go ahead do it, is your life and if you want to die, then die. But now its affecting me personally. I understand he is nice and works really hard but this relationship is getting rockier every single day, ( because of WEED). He cant have a conversation with me because he says he is not focused cause he is high, he cant get an erection and his doctor told him is because weed ( he has a medical conditions where weed makes it worse) so we dont have intercourse, we cant kiss cause he shares blunts with everyone and god knows what they have in their mouths, we dont hang out cause he has friends that smoke in the car and i cant deal with it. I dealt with this for 6 years and I am sick of it. I spoke to him about it and he went crazy and switch the story around. I am in a tough position, I cannot believe that i cant even look at the man that i love face because he is always high red puffy glary eyes. Yuck. Besides i do understand if he smoke once or twice a week but he smokes like a joint every two to three hours even at work. WHAT TO DO-??? How to fix this problem???? I would like to fix it then to break it off??
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Okay… FACT CHECK: Marijuana can not kill you. It's impossible. I know I sound like just another stoner fighter for legalization, but just stop being a puppet to the government. You're standing up for a group of people who have lied to you your whole life, not just about marijuana. Also, it is not addictive. There are NO addictive chemicals in marijuana, and I've quit cold turkey plenty of times.
Now, to answer your question. You say he was yelling at you because he wanted to smoke weed but couldn't. That's not because of marijuana. He's mad because he wanted to do something that he loved, but couldn't. Wouldn't you feel the same, whether it was weed or just something else you like doing? Also, coming from a guy who has smoke for the past 10 years, I find it very hard to believe that a guy who supposedly smokes everyday (who probably has an incredible tolerance) can't hold a regular conversation. It's not that hard. And a medical problem is which a man can not get an erection as a direct result of smoking marijuana also sounds hard to believe.
Honestly, if it really bothers you, find at a time when he's sober, and politely ask him to stop smoking pot. If he says he doesn't want to stop, then try to compromise. If that story about the failure to get an erection is actually true, then tell him you want to make love him, so just don't smoke for that day. Or tell him you want to spend a romantic night with him, and to not smoke that day, so you can kiss him or look into his eyes. Work SOMETHING out TOGETHER!
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