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I've liked this guy since I met him in 8th grade, he was a grade lower then me. we'll call him Ethan. Well I didn't find out that Ethan was actually out and gay until I was in 10th grade and he was a fresh men but now I've graduated and I can't get him off my mind. I tried to hang out with him in lunch before but all that happened was the Girls he sat with, Which basically only liked him because he was gay. Complete leeches, Kept reversing everything I said and then tried to get me to call in a bomb threat. Then the dumped a bottle of water of my head. Then they asked me if I watched buffy the vampire slayer and I said yes because I use to watch it and they asked me who the main villain was. I sat there puzzled because if I remember correctly doesn't every episode have a new main villain? they called me a liar. I tried to talk to him on AIM but it was just awkward.
Then I noticed he also liked Queer as folk because I sent him a story of something I wrote and he noted it reminded him of RAGE. Of course I hadn't ran into RAGE yet because I only owned the first season. Then I asked him how he came out and he wrote this message about how in 9th grade sneaking out of class and smoking a cig with some "Friend" who has a five-o clock shadow and he ended up kissing his "friend" because he couldn't hold back any longer and the friend ended up shoving him down and kicked him repeatedly calling him all sorts of horrible names and he ended up punching the guy in the nose, breaking his wrist. Then I noticed he liked a lot of the same things I did, so I decided to point it out more on myspace to see if he'd notice. The Thing is he thought I was copying him and sent an message stating it was annoying. But I can't get him out of my head it just keeps bugging me and bugging me!
HELP!
Note: I've asked this before and I've gotten responses that state that he thinks of me as a stalker and a creep at the moment. My question now is, What can I do to stop this? Please don't say that he's out and gay so just ask him. The Last time I did that the person freaked saying I hardly knew them.
I'm Bi, so the first freak out was with a girl: This is what happened.
back in six grade I noticed a girl with brown hair and found her interesting. But the thing is, I'd been made fun of since the beginning of school and I was Xtremely Timid around other people. I kept seeing her a lot but couldn't get myself to talk to her, then she ended up being everywhere I was. One time she actually noticed me and asked me if I was stalking her but before I could answer one of my few friends ran by and I ran off with him. Then I found out in seventh grade that my cousin was friends with the same girl that I like. We would go over to the girls house and just sit around (because I didn't really know my way around the town so I couldn't really walk to my house, not that I really wanted to). Then eighth grade past by and in ninth my cousin freaked out and they weren't friends anymore. (Of course by this time the only way I knew how to get home was the way the girl walked home).
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So I would walk her way to get to my house (It's not like I was stalking her or anything) but then she started noticing and started calling me stalker and stuff like that. I mostly ignored it and tried my hardest to talk to her. Then I told my mum about it, she told me to write a note and give it to her (LAME!), but I ended up doing it and when I walked her way. She and her friends sat down on the grass and waited for me to pass, So I walked up to her and handed her the note and walked away. Nervous as hell the days past and nothing happened, But then one time I was walking home and she confronted me. Calling me a stalker and a freak and saying she didn't love me and that I hardly knew her (Noted I didn't spell her name right because her last name is browne and I forgot the e at the end).
Ever since I've been wanting to apologize but haven't had the guts to do it. I really want to get to know her…
Oh I forgot to note, I sent him something and he deleted me. It was like months after the whole copying him message. So I no longer have him as a friend on myspace. The Whole Lunch thing was three years ago.
I also suffer from aspergers syndrome.
Suggestion:
You say you need "more than one answer," but you got six answers when you posted this before.
Regardless . . .
He's obviously not interested in you, and indeed is a little annoyed. So it's doing you no good to keep fixating on him — that's not going to miraculously make him interested in you.
We routinely encounter people who we find attractive, dear, but we can't allow ourselves to fixate on every one. Remember, just because YOU find someone attractive does not mean that HE is automatically thinking the same thing about you.
As for people freaking out about you, it sounds like you're coming across as far too intense and tense. You need to get a grip on yourself, calm down, and be far more relaxed — coming on strong and/or intensely will turn off most people. I obviously can't give you detailed instructions on how to do this, but you should observe people who are calm and confident and pleasant, and then try to figure out how they became that way. You don't want to exactly copy people you admire, but you should emulate them a little.
Wish I could be of more help.
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