So I've been with this guy for over 2 years,and we're engaged.
Well at the beginning of our relationship he wasn't the best person in the world. He had a problem keeping his mouth shut about our problems. His parents did a horrible job raising him cause neither one of them wanted to grow up and become parents (they were 17 and 21 when he was born). I on the other hand had a great up bringing. My parents wanted to be parents more than anything (they couldn't have kids so they adopted me) I'm what you would call a good girl.
Then I met him at the mall 2 years ago which is where I worked and he as well worked there. I was a 17 year old virgin…. I've kinda been sheltered my who life (and i come from a christian up bringing), but that day I wanted to rebel. Me and him slept together after he got off work.
days after that he never called me and I called him and told him who I felt about him. He said he didn't feel that way and so I went on my way feeling pretty USED.
See I had worked with him a good 3 months before we slept together. Later on about a month later he told me he was wrong and that he loved me.
(((And so our relationship began)))
Well we had a pretty good fight into our relationship and he then blabbed about me sleeping with him after work that one day to his family. At this point is when they started thinking I was a whore.
After he threatened to move away I said screw it and went on with my life. He came back and said he was wrong and he was only gonna move because his dad wanted him away from me and live back with him (his dad).
At this point his living with his grandma in the same city I live in.
Ok at this point I'm still going to church and I'm going to a Pentecostal private school making A's.
Yet he wants his "doing nothing with his life/ pot smoking kid away from me"????
At this point I know he's told his dad stuff about me that wasn't true.
Well same thing happens about a month later and he threatens to move in with his dad again about an hour away. Now he's telling me he wants to move away from me cause apparently i'm PSYCHO??
I think that had something to do with the fact that I'm a good girl and they're all bad with money,and smoke pot. (his mom still smokes pot to this day)
What ever that all blows over and we have a rough few months but we're ok now. HE admits that alot of the problems we had in the beginning were because of him and his immaturity. Whatever people make mistakes and he has horrible selfish parents. I mean his dad is on his 2nd marriage and is unhappy and his mom is on her 3rd or 4th divorce. Whatever..
Since then I have wanted him to talk to his parents and admit fault to his behavior in the beginning so his parents won't hate me.
Well 2 years later and it still hasn't happened….
since then me and his dad get along and I think everything is cool now. WRONG!!!
We had dinner with his dad last night and I find out that his dad said to him "you should be partying not being tied down to some girl".
SOME GIRL?????? I helped him stop smoking weed, graduate Paralegal school, and straighten his life. That's something his dad couldn't ever do in his 22 years of life that I was able to do in 2 years. I'm proud of him for straightening up.
WELL today while he's talking on the phone with his dad he tells me that his dad wants him to move back in with him….
Of course he's not going to but it still makes me mad that he hasn't cleared my name with his parents and he's ok with them saying stuff about me behind my back.
He not gonna tell off his dad, and he never will. It really hurts.
What should I do???
Suggestion:
i can understand that you love him and i can understand why you are with him. my boyfriend did somewhat the same thing. i think you should talk to him and let him know how you feel about what is going on. Tell him how much it upsets you and how much it hurts you. Honestly nothing will change if you dont speak your mind. You should talk to his parents as horrible as they sound let them know the truth about waht happened have you boyfriend next to you when you do this so words wont get misunderstood and twisted around. after that they can either accept you or not. if its apology you seek dont worry about it because people will always talk down on you when you do better then them. Just remember how much you have help your boyfriend change from a little boy to a responsible grown man. It takes a strong woman to do that. and if his parents dont accept you oh well. nothing they can say or do will take him away from you. if he truly loves you he will stay. best of luck
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