Now, I'll be upfront and honest: he doesn't really want to quit. However, he promised me when I agreed to even be with him, that he would try to quit. Majorly, we are planning on starting a family, and especially since asthma runs in my family (I have it, too), I do not want anyone smoking near my future baby or even when I'm pregnant, especially not someone who will be so close. He does only smoke outside and in his car…but again, I wouldn't want our baby in his smoke-permeated car.
I'm not a prude. I wouldn't care that he smokes, except that it's a major health risk for all of us. He had cancer as a child. As a result, he has blood pressure problems, arrythmia, chest tightness, and even mild ED. It's pretty much proven that quitting smoking will improve most of his symptoms. I myself have also already had thyroid cancer, amongst other problems.
He says the major reason he enjoys smoking is that he has five minutes to step away and escape from the world. Food or sweets or gum won't satisfy this for him. I've suggested he pick up a different habit or exercise or similar, but nothing seems appealing to him.
He really should quit. And he knows it. He is all right on the patch, but I don't know if that will "cure" him or if he'd just end up being on the patch for forever. However, the lack of inhaled smoke and tar and the like *would* benefit his health.
No, I don't like the smoke, but this is for him and our future children much more than it is for me. Of course I'd be thrilled if he stopped, but I want him to be healthier.
I'd especially appreciate help from former smokers who didn't want to quit originally, like him.
Thank you so much!
Suggestion:
If you want to quit smoking, you have to be ready to. If you`re not ready to quit yet, it doesn`t work. Many products exist to help people quiting smoking like Nicorette Gum and Nicoderm Patches. Some help phone lines also exist to help people who want to quit smoking. I understand your husband because i was a smoker myself. As him, smoking was a pleasure and a source of relaxation. Don`t push him, encourage him to quit smoking when he will be ready to. Everybody know the danger of cigarette and second-hand smoke (especially for children). When he will be minded to stop, encourage him and congratulate him for his effort. Quiting smoking is very difficult, maybe it will take some try before he succeed (who is perfectly normal), so he have to be patient and he will be able to quit smoking. I wish you and your husband good luck.
http://www.nicoderm.ca/en/about.asp
http://www.nicorette.ca/stop-smoking/products.aspx
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Quit_smoking
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