Everytime I meet my friends' parents, they know that if they ask me questions I cannot lie, I'll tell the truth right away. I told them who smoked cigarettes (and how many), who smoke weed and who drank alcohol.
So my friends get grounded and all but their parents dont tell them it comes from me. So everytime I chill with my friend they are looking around to see if their parents are spying on them and when they see that they dont, they smoke a joint and I end up snitching them again and they get grounded again.
Lately, they got really suspicious that something was going on so they decided to smoke at a guy's appartment 50 minutes away from our block. I was with them and I ended up snitching them again.
They know its me because Im the only one who doesn't smoke and when they confronted me, I snitched myself.
I had this problem since im 4 years old, I remember snitching my sister to my mother. I also called the police once because my father crossed the street at red light.
Should I meet a therapist, have a diagnose, call a specialist!?!?
Seriously guys any opinion help is appreciated, and sorry for my english I did my best
Suggestion:
You should keep going the way you are. You have an ingrained philosophy that is totally right. Like mine:
Every crime should be reported.
Every criminal should be reported.
Every criminal should be given the punishment specified by law.
No criminal can escape justice simply by choosing me as a friend.
While it is true that an individual doesn't have any obligation to report a crime or other wrongdoing, that doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with reporting it. As far as you've told us, you have done nothing wrong. Don't be confused by the popular myth that Robin Hood is good, snitches are bad, everyone should simply smile when a friend or relative does something wrong. Don't apologize for doing what's right.
I think you should do two things. First, write out your philosophy. I don't mean adopt mine, I mean figure out what your own is and write it out, and edit it until it feels completely right.
Second, start considering what careers are best suited to your philosophy. A profession where honor counts and protecting criminals is wrong.
I love the fact that you reported your father for walking across the street against a red light. You are an extremist like me, but you haven't lost your purity as I have. You will make compromises, and you'll learn to pick and choose your battlefields. But please don't drop a perfectly honorable philosophy just because your friends would like you better.
Good luck.
Mayan
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Wow your an asshole. My not just lie? If you continue being a do*uxhbag to your friends don't be surprise when you have none. If I was your friend and.u did that to me you would be lying beaten in an ally. U seriously need to change.
You have approval issues.
You want to be accepted by ANYONE… even your friends' parents. Your parents probably don't pay much attention to you.
You're a bad friend. Narc.
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