So my b.f. of all my life/ friend/ neighbor/ bank robbery accomplice, he's 21, (no father, ever, only comment on this fact if you experienced this life style), has recently had an epiphany, realizing that he should take on more responsibility in life, like get a job, pay for his ****, or at least his half and take better care of your loved ones. So this is amazing to me he even stopped smoking bud, i haven't but thats not the issue, anyways he's finally opened up his eye's and has realized the real lies about himself and our current society, except he's completely questioning him self now. We've been together since we were kids and I've never seen him be more doubtful about him self. Saying he's not enough for me and i deserve better i thought he wanted to call it quits till he told me "no! not at all" it's just, he describes it as, he wants to do better but it's going to take him a long time before he's good. But besides financial part he's so not confident, he stays really quiet all the time. And when he finally speaks he only ever wants to talk about us and our feelings (i hate it) and his insecurities but it doesn't help for me to ask WHY WONT YOU REACT! RESPOND! FACE EXPRESSION ANYTHING PLEASE! He never has an opinion about anything anymore. he even gets frustrated not knowing how to say what he want to say then and always says the wrong thing, He speaks in a lower tone, his head is always down, and no matter how i try to help him accomplish his new goals i still remind him that he had amazing qualities already and thats why i know he's worth being there for and that "US" will never be something he ever has to worry about. What can i do or recommend or start doing, stop doing, get him a puppy, i don't know! I just want him be comfortable to be himself again.
Suggestion:
just give him some time, he's going through a big change
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